Resistance. Self Sabotage. Procrastination.
The labels of parts of us that hold up action, that put in a wrench in the path of some goals.
Pressure, blame and shame also surround such labels.
As if a person is at fault, or weak, or somehow failing when resisting kinds of energy show up.
I invite you to consider another way of relating to Resistance:
Resistance, Self Sabotage, and Procrastination are energies in a person disagreeing with other parts of the person.
These Resisting energies have a valid point of view, and valid concerns.
Usually the conflict lies between Manager type parts - who align strongly with our culture, valuing productivity, success, getting things done, making money, recognition - and Exile parts (vulnerable wounded ones) or Firefighter parts (wanting comfort now).
(These Parts distinctions are based on Internal Family Systems.)
The Manager type goals are worthy goals - however they dominate our society, often at the expense of rest, nurture, pleasure, caretaking, and tending to the vulnerable energies that live inside each and every one of us.
I love Resisting parts (and Self Sabotage and Procrastination), because they wave the flag of disagreement. They clue us in to our complexities that go far beyond the goals of success, as defined by our general western culture. They bring diversity to our inner world.
When we slow down with these parts, they invite us to notice where we need healing or growth. They invite us to question our bigger picture.
What truly brings satisfaction?
How and what is my best contribution at this time?
Are my actions and values in full alignment in all ways?
Am I touching the edge of partnership with the universe?
What needs healing in me, in order that I might become my fullest self?
Inviting love and appreciation for your full spectrum of parts and inner complexities!
Love,
marta