Internal Family Systems
Being human, most of us experience inner conflict, about the big things in life as well as the small things. Deciding upon careers, family choices, relationships, partners, kids, moving - these might be some big things that provoke serious inner arguments, anxiety, and fear. Small things like deciding what to eat, what to wear, how to spend an afternoon, where to buy your groceries, ordering your day can create inner conflict too.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is one way to welcome all of you into any decision, any way of being, into who you are.
IFS looks at one’s inner world as made up of parts of one’s personality.
For example, one part of me wants to go to yoga class. Another part of me hates yoga class and wants to watch TV. I sit on the couch, being stuck in my indecision, because two parts of me have opposing views and opposing actions. I cannot do or be both at the same time.
But I can be with both parts of me, regardless of the outcome.
IFS calls this Self energy – that quality of you that brings no judgment and no agenda. That essence of one’s self, the inner spark at one’s core.
Bringing Self energy to parts of one’s personality brings about healing and transformation, leading to deeper and authentic confidence, compassion, calm, curiosity, clarity, courage, connection, creativity, and choice.
In this process of welcoming all parts and Self energy, some emotions will transform and change, while at the same time, building the capacity to tolerate the experience exactly the way it is. The human experience means we cannot avoid suffering, so IFS helps us learn to be with the suffering. The way we do this is:
1. Identify and welcome the parts of you that are present. Awareness of parts brings Self energy.
2. Build relationships with all of these parts of you. Parts want a relationship with that essence of you, Self energy.
3. Witness the burdens that parts are carrying, which leads to gentle healing and transformation.
4. Experience an increase in authentic confidence, compassion, calm, curiosity, clarity, courage, connection, creativity, and choice. It feels like magic when we naturally experience these qualities, even in the midst of trauma, or grief, or suffering.
This is not a "push through your fear" kind of program. IFS is known for its gentleness and effectiveness, originally developed with survivors of trauma, and now applied to any area of healing and growth. You can read more about IFS here.
Sessions can be in person or via Skype.
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Combining IFS with music coaching is a process that builds your own confidence, courage and creativity. I’m ready to meet you exactly where you are and with a warm invitation to dive into work at any point of your process (meaning, you don't have to have your music memorized, or polished, or any state other than what it is). I can help you connect to your internal wisdom, your authentic voice, your most creative side, while bringing compassion and healing to where you struggle. And if you have trouble trusting that you are wise and know what you're doing, I can help with that too!
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
Marta’s style of coaching and helping you navigate the many parts of yourself is both powerful and gentle. When you’re worn out, low, or duking it out with your inner critic, it can feel like there's nowhere steady to place your feet, but Marta has a skillful and compassionate way of helping you create your own safety. By the end of our sessions I always feel much lighter, with a clear sense of what I can do immediately to tend to the parts of me that are in need and want to be heard. Therapy and self help can sometimes seem so serious and at-arm’s-length. IFS coaching with Marta is different. Marta is so welcoming and funny that you almost forget you are doing deeply impactful, transformative work together. I can’t recommend working with her highly enough. Marta is warm, heart-centered, and supportive, but most importantly, she will help you build up those qualities in and for yourself. Emily Burrows, self care coach and yoga teacher, www.emilyburrows.com
Marta Johnson Lettofsky is a "coach" in the truest sense of the word. Her musical intelligence and ability to help a singer prepare a score are matched by her thorough understanding of performance psychology. She has assisted me in developing personalized practice methods, exercises and tactics to address performance anxiety. My performing has become more mindful, and in turn, more successful. She is a sensitive musician and an understanding soul. Daniel Shirley, tenor, www.danielshirley.net
As a professional actress, a large part of my job is auditioning for upcoming projects. It’s often a very vulnerable and nerve-wracking process, but it’s necessary to sustaining a career. Over the past several years, I developed a debilitating case of stage fright, particularly when it came to auditioning for musical theatre. I was left frustrated with myself and was certain that this fear was costing me jobs. Marta worked with me to develop personalized techniques to conquer those fears and imagine a positive outcome to my auditions. I’m happy to report that after practicing these techniques, I've recently been cast in a world-premiere of a new musical at a Tony-Award-winning regional theatre. Tiffany Scott, actress