Some of Both
A question I’ve been asking myself: when to go to the painful feeling and when to relax around it?
From IFS (Internal Family Systems) I’ve learned that going towards it with authentic love and compassion brings healing.
From energy healing I’m learning that I can relax around the feeling, which brings in fresh energy, which brings healing.
Both ways are wonderful and life giving.
The confusing thing about going towards the pain - it can feel really bad sometimes. It can be overwhelming. I sometimes get stuck for a while believing that the feeling is the truth – that I’m bad or wrong or powerless.
The confusing thing about relaxing and releasing - sometimes it feels like bypassing or ignoring the suffering inside me. If I’m not directing the healing in my system, how do I know that real healing is happening for the parts of me that are suffering?
The answer from IFS: deeply witnessing the pain or suffering brings healing.
The answer from energy healing: fresh energy brings about healing of the whole system in an order that I don’t cognitively control. Cognitive control doesn’t do the job of healing anyway.
After going towards the pain, I feel relief and release and fresh energy.
From and during relaxing, I often feel the intensity of the pain rise to the surface, and then subside.
I like discovering that there is no one right way. I like having options. I like that I do some of both, and ultimately both are helping me stay grounded and grow.
I'm excited by all the different ways to grow and heal. What feels healing to you these days?
With love,
Marta
