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Perfectionism and Precision
Short answer - perfectionism limits and constrains while precision inspires and focuses.
And why would this topic be relevant now in December, such a busy time of year?
Well, our patterns get highlighted when stress levels rise. Which makes them more obvious, which then also helps us address them!
I remember when a music colleague first called me a perfectionist - maybe 20 years ago - and I was shocked. I seriously thought I was just doing what everyone needed to do to do their best.
This is so common in people I work with - we think we're just doing what's expected and normal. But really, our commitment to perfection as an essential goal + an Inner Critic that goes wild when “mistakes” happen = perfectionism.
It is normal to encounter perfectionism in our culture. That doesn't mean it's good for us on the physical, mental, emotional, or soul levels!
We can aim towards precision and high achievement, while finding more balance internally. Here are some differences between the two:
Soul-level
How is your heart, dear one?
You, as a sensitive soul, may be noticing depth and feelings more than ever. Which has always been true, but now we’re at magnification levels because of intensity and change in personal and macro ways.
In recent weeks I’ve been addressing some of the deep soul level beliefs in me regarding hope, or rather the lack of hope.
This showed up with tremendous despair and feelings of “not this again” and “I’ll never get out from under this”. As I released through it, so much transformed, and incredible newness is taking root.
Among many gifts - I’m way less entangled with any drama, and feeling more natural hope and resilience.
These types of soul-level beliefs are imprints from other lives lived, with circumstances and happenings strong enough that they still want some attention to resolve.
Addressing such longstanding despairs and hopelessness opens possibility in magic ways. We learn that despair and depression are not our natural state, we find it’s a lens through which we’ve been viewing life. The heaviness, the tiredness, the locked out and numbed out state might be connected to things far beyond this lifetime.
And the cool thing is that we can address those things! We can find the soul-level nuggets that are so ready to transform, release, and even alchemize into gifts.
Setting an intention to find and release these is one way. Your path might lead you to just the healer or guide or medicine you need. Or asking for help in dreams. Or going into meditation and asking to be shown the place that needs attention.
There’s so much we can do with our intention, our power, our confidence. And of course, if you need help, I’m here, as are many other wonderful healers to assist you in your next blossoming!
A lot of not-knowing, a lot of possibility
A lot of not-knowing, with a lot of discomfort, and incredible magnificence at the same time.
Fierce and wonderful boundaries take shape that redraw my daily life.
Immense grief of lifetimes, of present, of past, of intergalatic levels ravages me at times.
Incredible brilliant energy floods me at times. Sometimes while I'm grieving, sometimes just living daily life, sometimes in meditation.
Energy work is speeding up. I am meeting with peers and it seems we can share our gifts. I've asked to download what they show me is possible, and what's appropriate for me. In response, my energy healing sessions are speeding up, and we cover so much more territory. Intergalatic in fact.
Woo helps the manager parts
Our manager parts hold the most skepticism, grown-up-ness, and separation from magic, fantasy, and anything to do with the woowoo world.
This isn't true for all people of course. Perhaps your manager parts are full on for the woo.
But if you hold skepticism, it usually rests with the managers. If you think you "know better", that's manager code for their big thinking brains.
Which makes sense. It's wise to have some parts of us that need proof. That need convincing. That need a reason to trust.
How I healed my autoimmunity
I had to take the drugs or I couldn't function. But I was determined to heal naturally. (Manager parts with a plan!)
I tried so many things: many herbs, acupuncture, homeopathy, frequency machines. I worked really hard at a clean, strict diet for years. (Manager parts being 'good', following rules, trying to fix.)
This all helped reduce my symptoms, but didn't completely fix the problem.
I spent hours in therapy lamenting my inability to change this autoimmunity. My body attacking itself. (Manager parts confronting their inability to force health.)
I felt embarrassed and shameful for having a disease. (Exile parts, the most vulnerable parts, feeling humiliated and powerless.)